Beating Stay at Home Mom Isolation
By: Stephanie Foster
There's a price to be paid for the privilege of being a stay at
home mom. I don't just mean the loss of income either. Many a
stay at home mom quickly notices a feeling of isolation, not
only when she first starts out at home, but periodically when
circumstances cause her to lose touch with the outside
world.
Isolation is painful. It doesn't matter
that you adore your children or that all the other stay at home
moms you know are counting their blessings and seem to be
having a blast. Sometimes the personal sacrifice of less time
with other adults really stings.
This gets even harder when you run into people who tell you
that you should just be grateful for the time you have with
your children. You can be grateful for that yet still feel
isolated. There is nothing that says those two things can only
be felt separately.
You don't have to feel completely alone. No matter how young
your children are there are things you can do to get some time
with other adults and beat those lonely feelings.
Something as simple as running errands can help. It's not much
time with other people, and you probably won't have a real
conversation with anyone other than the cashier as you check
out, but it can relieve some of that isolated feeling.
If the children are old enough, heading to the park or to a
museum can help too. The park is particularly enjoyable if you
can arrange for another mom to be there, ideally with kids for
yours to play with. The children get exercise; you get time to
talk with another grownup who knows what you're dealing
with.
There are also various moms groups online you can sign up for
if you don't know any other stay at home moms in your area.
Stay at home moms can be hard to spot, but you might be
surprised at how many are in your area.
Going online really can help. Join a forum on a topic that
interests you. Read blogs. Start one of your own. It's all a
chance to express yourself and at least virtually interact with
people who share your interests.
Some stay at home moms will insist to you that they never feel
isolated, as though you shouldn't either. But if you ask them
about it, you will find out that these are the moms who already
have a good network of friends and family they can talk to and
do things with regularly. They aren't lonely because they don't
allow it to happen.
As you get used to being a stay at home mom and develop
friendships with people who can be there when you need someone
other than a child to talk to, you can get control over the
isolation. It doesn't have to be a problem forever.
Author Resource:-> Stephanie Foster offers a
forum for
stay at home parents. You can read more about being a
stay at home mom at http://www.homewiththekids.com/lifestyle.php.
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